Friday, January 27, 2017

StepMom Wins

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There are times in your blended family where your step children will do something, say something, or get you something for you that melts your heart.  When these special moments arise you need to document them in a notebook. Also keep cards, keepsakes, or crafts they made you at school in a folder or box.  As they get older when hard times come, you can look back on these special moments where they melted your heart. When you save these special moments or things it will help you get through those hard and rough times where they may say or do something that is very hurtful to you.  In a stepparent to stepchild relationship there will always be ups and downs, where one minute they love you and worship the ground you walk on, then in the next minute they can’t stand you and don’t want to be around you. When the hard times come all you have to do is open your notebook up and read the special moments you shared with them. When you document the special moments in your notebook be sure that you write down the date of the special moment.
If you don’t have any yet, there’s always still time to create those special moments with them.  Create a special time with them or speak great things into their life.  I remember when my stepdaughter was twelve years old and asked me if she could go with me to get her nails done too.  It made me so happy that she wanted to go and spend time together like that.  Then there were many times she would ask to go run errands with me instead of staying home with her father.  Then there was this time where my stepdaughter made me a jewelry tray out of pottery at school that was Hawaiian themed because she knows how much I love Hawaii. Then there was this time when my stepson was twelve years old and he said that he didn’t want us to get a divorce because he loved our family the way it is.  My stepson when he was in middle school bought me a Christmas tree ornament with his own money at the Christmas shop they had a school, it really touched my heart that he thought of me like that.  It’s so important that you hold onto these special memories somewhere because over time you will forget them.  Then as the stepchildren get older and become teenagers it will not be easy to remember those memories if they are not written down somewhere.  One day when the stepchildren become adults you can show them your notebook along with a box of the special memories as a reminder of everything that happened with them when they were a child. For example, a special moment could be when they first said they loved you or when they first called you Mom.  The time they bought you something on their own for Mother’s Day or the first homemade card or craft that they made for you from school.  Another special time would be when you first took them to a spa and they got their first massage or pedicure.  It could be the first night they asked you to read a story to them instead of their father. 
What are you waiting for? Start today and make your own Stepmom Win notebook. Try to hold onto those positive memories for as long as you can before you forget about them. You’ll be happy you did later on down the road.

23 comments:

  1. Interesting idea. I'm not a step-mom (or even a mom, at this point in my life) but I could see this being useful.

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  2. What great ideas! I'm not a step mom but these all sound like wonderful things.

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  3. Very interesting idea. These are great ideas for a blended family

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  4. great idea for blended family,thanks for sharing

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  5. This is a great idea not only for stepmoms, but for mothers, for wives, for husbands, for friends. Gratitude for the blessing of loved ones is something we're lacking these days - we see other people as a chore or a hassle all too often in our society, and this post is a great reminder to hold onto and appreciate all the little things.

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  6. These are some great tips on being a step mom. It seems like your true love and caring is coming through. That seems to be key too.

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  7. This notebook is such a great idea, even for all parents! Your memories with your step children make me smile, it seems like they love you so much. That's so amazing. <3

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  8. I love this. As a single dad I hope to be married again. And if I end up in a blended family situation this gives me ideas.

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  9. This is a great idea! It does sounds like a way that help to bond a stepparent with a stepchild well!

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  10. Great tips because this works with all relationships that you may struggle with. Look for the blessings even if they're small.

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  11. I am a step mom to 4 so this is a lovely idea and one I am going to to give a try for myself

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  12. What great insight. My friend is a step mom of adult children so it's been difficult for her to connect. This is nice that your children are younger and in the house to create a foundation of love and memories.

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  13. Every step mom ought to read this! I've never been a step mom and quite honestly don't know if I would have been a good one.

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  14. What a lovely idea! I'm not a step mom myself but this is a great reminder about keeping memories someplace where you can always go back again.

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  15. That is an interesting idea for a blended family

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  16. I love the idea of keeping a little notebook like this! I don't have kids, but this is something I'll have to remember to do if I ever become a parent or step-parent

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  17. I don't have any stepchildren, but I can remember when my current husband met my daughter. Within a little while of meeting each other, they were fast friends. They bonded very well and I am glad of that.

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  18. this looks really cool. i have a stepmom but she's been in my life since i was 12 and i'm 32 now, so she's more like a mom than anything else.

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  19. I'm not a moment yet (nor a step mum) but I think documenting these moments could be useful. Like a memory box or something maybe 😍
    Katja xxx
    www.katnapped.com

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  20. I think it's important to remember memories as precious as the ones you shared. It's a great idea to keep a notebook or a diary, putting it down on your planner is great too.

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  21. Regardless if you're a mom or a step mom, I think it's wonderful to write down beautiful memories of your kids! It's a great way to remember and it's perfect to read when you're feeling a bit down with life.

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  22. Beautiful and thoughtful idea no matter what! This applies to all I think. Very nice!

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  23. these are all wonderful ideas! I'm not a step mom or a mom at all but this is still refreshing.

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