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Friday, January 22, 2016

Picky Eaters

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Do you have a child or stepchild who’s a picky eater? Well, I am very lucky three out of five kids are picky eaters. Two of which are my stepchildren.  I remember being a picky eater when I was a child to, but yet my parents always made me eat what was on my plate. In fact, I wasn’t allowed to get up from the table until everything was finished.  So what I used to do is take a lot of napkins and slowly put the food when they weren’t looking in the napkins so they didn’t notice.  When I was at my Dad's house I would just feed my food to the dog. I would sit there for hours sometimes because I refused to eat certain things on my plate such as peas. The food would get so cold, but they wouldn’t let me warm it up either.  I told myself that when I become a parent I will not make my kids sit at the table until everything is done and I haven’t done that even though in the back of my mind I thought about doing it.   
When I first came into the picture with my husband it was very hard on me because I thought they weren’t eating what I made because they didn’t like me.  But the truth of the matter was they are just picky eaters and have always been that way. My stepdaughter would be happy with chicken tenders/chicken nuggets at every meal if we allowed that. It was very hard at first in fact we would end up making two meals for meal times which was hard and a pain in the butt. 
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Until one day we started the “One Bite” rule, which is they, at least, try one bite of the food and if they don’t like it, they get two options and we decide what those two options are. After doing this a few times, they eventually discovered that they do like other foods. They also found out that their Stepmom (meaning me) is a great cook after all. Then they started requesting certain meals for me to make on the weekends they were here.  My stepdaughter has even contacted me in the past for certain recipes so they can make something at home with their mother.
I still have one picky eater and she’s the worst one in the house now, which is my ten-year-old daughter. We have learned to say if you don’t like it you can make yourself PB&J or something else for dinner.  Her favorite thing to eat is chicken and ice cream, however, I have recently got her to eat steak and pork chops from time to time. It’s still a struggle with her, though. One day she will like something and then the next time we make it she doesn't like it. But the “One Bite” rule really works.  I try my best to include foods they like for meal times.  I just learned not to get upset with my children or stepchildren about it and compromise with them.  Yes, sometimes I do make two different meals. But I have learned to give up on the stress and frustration of them being picky eaters. It’s just not worth getting upset about it.  You learn after a while to pick your battles and them being picky eaters just isn’t a battle for me anymore.  For example, one day out of the blue my stepson stopped liking Chinese food when all of us love it still. So what we decided to do is buy him Wendy’s and buy us Chinese food. Yes, it means going to two different places for food but yet everyone is happy and eating, that’s what’s really important. If you have picky eater try the “One Bite” rule with them and then always have two options ready and available for them to eat just in case they still don’t like the food.  Those two choices in the past for us have been cereal and PB&J sandwiches.  Whatever you do, try not to make it hard on you, meaning having to cook two whole meals.

Do you have a picky eater? How did you handle it?
Meet one of my Picky Eaters

14 comments:

  1. there's hope for all picky eaters - when I was a kid, i was a VERY picky eater... :)

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  2. My twin granddaughters are picky eaters, too. I like the one bite rule. I will ask my daughter to try this.

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  3. I was a picky eater as a child, it turns out. However, it is MORE than clear I've made up for it now! Not so picky. Well, ok. A little.
    Carol Cassara
    www.carolcassara.com

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  4. The "one bite" rule is a good thing to have. My boyfriend has that with me, lol - I'm a little picky when it comes to seafood (usually don't like it) and other non-beef or chicken meats.

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  5. My grand kids are picky eaters. I have two that would eat chicken and mac n cheese 3 times a day if I'd fix it for them. I'm going to try your one bite rule.

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  6. I'm SO lucky my kids aren't too picky. They generally eat everything, and I love it. My oldest won't eat rice but thats about it so I can't complain. - Jeanine

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  7. Ha Ha love the Elizabeth Parker is using the one-bite rule for herself.

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  8. I was a very picky eater as a kid, and the foods on my plate couldn't touch and cross-contaminate one another. Now, I'm a total foodie. Keep the faith that your picky eaters' taste buds will change, and they will probably get less picky as they age!

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  9. I've been really lucky with good eaters. No one is really picky about food at my house, thankfully!

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  10. One of my kid is a picky eater & I always have to make sure I get it right for her. She loves anything with potato & onions so much & I have to make sure she gets it atleast once a day.

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  11. Great thing my kids are not that picky eaters. But there are times that they just don't wanna eat a certain food for no reasons at all.

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  12. My oldest was super is easy on eating, but my youngest is a picky eater. Potatoes...fries, carbs...they are all he wants lately...*sigh* We use these same tactics. Some days are better than others.

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  13. My daughter is a fair weathered picky eater. I'll have to try the one bite rule with her.

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  14. My daughter is a fair weathered picky eater. I'll have to try the one bite rule with her.

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