Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Gifts Taken Back

One weekend my stepdaughter came over with big surprises for my both of my girls they were ages 8 and 9 years old at the time.  I had no idea what she had for them.  Then she brought them out two American Girl Dolls that used to be hers, she was giving one doll each to both of my girls since she outgrew them and didn’t play with them anymore. I was really surprised and even thanked my stepdaughter for giving the dolls to my girls, it was just the kindest thing she has ever done for my girls up at that point. My girls were so excited and so happy and gave her a big hug for the dolls. My stepdaughter even had a bunch of accessories that she also gave to them to have. Then the next kid weekend we had them my girls didn’t do something that my stepdaughter liked and didn’t play the way she wanted them to play with her. She got very mad and called each of them both Brats. Then my husband punished her and sent her to her room. I was in another room at the time when all of this went down.  So I didn’t know what was really going on at the time. Then all of sudden a big loud cries came from my daughters room and then I rushed into their room to see what was going on.  My stepdaughter had come into their room when she was supposed to be in her room for punishment and took both of the dolls and all of the accessories that she could grab out of their room and told the girls they will never get the dolls back and that they are gone for good. My girls were crying so hard. And of course, my husband and I got into it with one another because he didn’t tell my stepdaughter to give the dolls back to my girls. I was really mad at her that she would give the girls dolls and then take them away like that. The fact that my husband would let her get away with taking something she has already given to someone else back because she was mad at them made me furious. She insisted on wanting to go back to her mother's house, which was totally fine with me since her behavior ruined the rest of the weekend. 
The following year I ended up getting them each a new American Girl Doll for each of their birthdays to make up for the great loss of the ones they used to have. Even after that all happened my girls still loved and adored their stepsister, which I was grateful that I didn’t raise daughters that hold grudges. 
The valuable lesson I taught my girls that weekend was to never take back something you give to someone else only because you're upset with them. When you give something to someone else it's theirs to keep, Taking gifts back after you give them is never okay.
Has anyone dealt with this issue with your stepchildren? If so, how did you handle it?

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